So Valentines Day is just around the corner and as you know my book "The Guys The Roses & The Regrets; The Girl to Girl Dating Guide" is all about dating and realtionships so Valentines Day is a big day of the year for me. I go to conferences, I do interviews and in general I get the word out about me and my book. The other day I was doing an interview and as always I was talking about how important it is to know who you are before you enter into any romantic relationship. Its important to know who you are because when you go into a relationship you are going to be changed. That relationship is going to affect you whether that be a good or bad thing.
So as I was talking something slipped out I said that if you go into a relationship before you know who you are its kinda like being Playdough. Because you're mushy, easy to change and easy to mess up. You go into the relationship as Playdough and the guy messes with you, changes you, then the relationship doesn't work out and you're left as some weird sculpture (like the one in the photo). All because you were mushy Playdough in the first place! Does that make sense? I thought it was a kinda cool comparision for relationships.
The point of the whole Playdough thing is that you shouldn't be Playdough. You should already be a sculpture before you enter any relationship. You should know who you are, what you stand for, what you want to be, what you want from the relationship and what your boundaries are. Knowing all of these things makes you a firm sculpture before you enter the relationship and of course you are going to alter a little but the guy won't be able to make you into whatever kind of sculpture he wants because you're already a strong sculpture.
I hope that made sense and made you think about relationships. It was just a quick interesting realtionship tip I wanted to share with you so remember don't be the Playdough in your relationships. Know exactly what kind of sculpture you are before you get involved in any relationship =]
Look out for lots more posts from me on the run up to Valentines Day like I said its a really busy time for me so I will be posting like those crazy bloggers who never leave their computers :P However if you want to keep up with me every minute of ever day (stalk much :P) you can follow me on Twitter @gracehatton
Well thats it for now so until next time, be blessed, stay strong and remember Don't Be The Playdough!
Grace Hatton - Best Selling Teen Author